Making life work for you is mostly a matter of engineering.
I bought a book that brought this whole thing home to me: Find Your Way: Unleash Your Power and Highest Potential, by Carly Fiorina. Her advice was so common-sense that I don’t know why so many of us don’t see it:
Instead of focusing on all the things you can’t change, find one problem you can solve – just one – and work on that. Then move to the next one and the next.
You have to figure out what you want first, and then ask yourself how you can put whatever’s in your hands in service toward that goal, even if it only puts you ahead by a toenail. Whatever it is, you have to turn it into a habit, into a life change, and you have to be mindful about it. Concentrate on the feeling that your new habit can give you and don’t worry about the results too hard. Otherwise you’ll get overwhelmed again. The changes will take care of themselves as you are faithful to shoot for that good feeling that comes from affirming that positive change.
The pages that fall under this “Way Finding” category are some of the things I’ve tackled big-time, though I’m aware that there are so many things I haven’t yet mastered (and probably never will). One time I thought I had a “problem” with my personal style and image – I mastered that – not perfectly – but that led me to learning about business branding, which led me to lifestyle mapping. Eventually that led to re-engineering the space in my small house, getting into physical shape, ideas for new products, and even changing the direction of my life. You will see the results of some of my problem solving victories under the “Way Finding” category.